In talking to people I coach and counsel, I’m now becoming more aware of the number of people who are harbouring a yearning to do something out of the ordinary in their lives. This is most apparent in those I counsel whose jobs have been taken away from them and they face redundancy – maybe because they are forced out of their normal day to day decision making to think of alternatives. When I ask the questions “if money were no object, what would you spend your time doing?”, I’m amazed at some of the heartfelt ideas that emerge. It made me wonder if we all have a “BIG THING” that we haven’t done but secretly yearn to do if we could just find a way, or some help, to get it started.
Of course, it’s not as simple as that – the very moment we start to think about our “BIG THING”, a wall of resistance begins to build, negative voices begin to chime in, fear strikes at our heart. At that point, I suppose most people – because essentially we don’t like change – back off, laugh at themselves and get on with ordinary lives, doing the same things we have always done. It reminds me of A. A. Milne’s description of how Edward Bear got downstairs every day:
“Here is Edward Bear, coming downstairs now, bump, bump, bump, on the back of his head, behind Christopher Robin. It is, as far as he knows, the only way of coming downstairs, but sometimes he feels that there is really another way, if only he could stop bumping for a moment and think of it.”
If you stopped bumping for a moment, what do you think might be your BIG THING that would change your self-perception and give you a feeling of joyfulness and achievement?
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